When you listen to Mrs. Joyce Meyer, remember that her story is not exactly your story. For example, I was raised by two loving parents. I was not molested by my father or denied access to a bible. The Gospel of Jesus Christ was intended to turn the hearts of parents to their children and the hearts of children to their parents. That implies forgiveness and grace to be honest that there is no one way to be a perfect parents or a perfect child. Therefore, what God gave to your parents was intended and designed by God for you just as your parents were chosen by the Sovereign God to bring you into the world. It is self-deception to presume that your parents method failed because you chose not to follow their instruction. That is personal responsibility.