You cannot properly receive love when you have a hard heart. You can hurt yourself and others more an more because you are suspicious. Love starts with trusting God. You have to trust God and people. Whatever God gives to us he wants us to be a channel that love can flow out of and into other people. A christian shares all that she or he has been given from God. The healer lives inside of you! Run to the Comforter! The Holy Spirit lives in a born again believer. When you have hardness on your soul you mistreat people.